Why don’t you care?
There are kids dying of hunger everywhere
There are refugees who need our help
There are orphans who need families
Why aren’t you helping?
There are vets committing suicide
There are homeless people begging for help
Racism is still an issue
Why don’t you care? Why aren’t you helping?
This sentiment seems to be everywhere lately.
I see someone write about a tragedy and he or she will immediately get torn apart for being biased. For only caring about children in Africa while people are killed in Syria, or ignoring children, or not caring about the right things.
Can we just pause for a moment and think about that? Someone shows love and compassion to another person and we say, “you are doing it wrong, you don’t care enough, otherwise, you would care about ALL THE THINGS” By all the things, we usually mean, “my thing, my issue, my cause”.
I don’t think the issue is that people don’t care.
I think people care a lot, but they get overwhelmed. We can’t handle caring for everything.
I can’t handle the pain of all the hurting people. It is literally too much for both my head and my heart. And besides, me being sad because others are dying, it helps nothing. It just means that I’m sad, and people are still dying.
I can help though. I can pick a person, a group of people, a cause, and love them the best that I can. I can give money, time and energy to a cause, to people I am passionate about. I can advocate for people. I can join communities and be a friend, a supporter, a voice.
Continue to fight for people and issues you care about. Shout about how others can join you, but stop expecting everyone to care about what you do with the same intensity. I understand the media is biased, and Facebook only allowed you to support one country after a tragedy. I get it, it’s frustrating, some causes are given more attention. Maybe that’s your fight. It’s okay if it isn’t mine.
Find your cause, your passion, the thing that you care so deeply about and you do that thing. When you see someone else doing their thing, encourage them, but stop feeling guilty that it isn’t your thing. You can’t care about all the issues. Whenever I try to care about too much, I get overwhelmed, and then I shut down because it’s too much. When you shut down, no one wins.
You are the only you. Your heart is incredible. Own it, follow it, go where it’s leading you.
Don’t be upset that my heart is leading me somewhere else. If I say, “I’m adopting from another country”, it doesn’t mean I don’t care about the children in my own country. If I adopt from my own country, it doesn’t mean that I don’t care about kids in other countries. If I give to an organization in Haiti, it doesn’t mean I don’t care about other organizations in Haiti, or Africa, or the United States. Stop asking people, “why don’t you care” when they aren’t fighting alongside you and ask “what sets your heart on fire?”. Helping one person isn’t an attack on your passions, it just means that my passions might be different from yours. That seems like a good thing to me. If we all love differently, how beautiful could that be?