I used to be a bully

This is probably my most controversial post yet.   I used to bully my children.  I wanted them to obey.  In the name of Christianity, I punished and yelled and spanked.  I said things like, “you don’t know my kid” and “every family has to do what is right for them” and all the other…

Grace has a face 

I just started reading Jesus, the gentle parent by L.R. Knost and it is already heavily highlighted.  I have so many thoughts as I read through it and so many tears.   Here is a passage that I had to share.  “The tiny girl stood timidly at the top of the stairs, her small face…

Big feelings

In our house, we talk a lot about feelings. I think it’s important to recognize all feelings as valid.   Today is full of overwhelming feelings for all the big people I know. Whether you are angry or excited, thrilled or terrified, your feelings are real and valid and allowed. I tell my children to…

I’m a stay at home mom

I am a stay at home mom. 3 years ago I left a well paying corporate position with a good company.  I also had a 6 month old and a 2.5 year old, and I only saw them awake for about two hours a day.   This wasn’t completely the company’s fault. I am terrible…

Men are not dogs

About a year ago, I really started questioning the things I grew up believing about my body. I should’ve really questioned most of this years ago- but these were the “truths” I grew up with and accepted. I grew up surrounded by dress codes that disproportionately targeted female attire…because “modesty”.  Here are the lessons I…

The Rules

I’ve been going through the New Testament lately and picked up on a theme I had never really paid attention to before.  It goes like this- Jesus and disciples- pick food on Sunday Pharisees (Christians)- THE RULES SAY YOU CAN’T DO THAT Jesus- You missed the point of the rules the next week… Jesus- heals…

North Carolina to Wisconsin to Michigan

Well guys, we did it, we packed up our North Carolina house, cleaned it and picked up my dad from the airport only one hour behind our ambitious schedule.  We spent three days driving to Wisconsin and arrived at our new house.  We were so excited to be out of the car, so excited to…